The image above was shared by a Facebook friend of mine. He inspired me so today I am here to talk to you about one of the things in life that can bring us so much joy and love but at the same time, so much heartache. Let’s dive into it.
Forgive me if my piece doesn’t seem to follow any particular structure but it is actually a collage of updates I made on my WhatsApp status and then decided to share with you.
My candid thoughts.
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Life. Full of illusions. Are you your bestie’s bestie ? Are you your sista’s sista ? Are you your boo’s boo ?
God help us and bless us with genuine people.
One of my favourite prayers lately is “God bless you with the choicest of humans”. People who will go as hard for you as you would for them so that you don’t wake up one day with your heart sinking and aching ; realising you actually threw yourself into that pit of heartache because no one asked you to do any of what you did.
I know. You did it because that’s who you are. You can’t help it. You see ? That is why a little selfishness is good sometimes😊. Apply with discretion though 😉.
I realised that human beings like free things but you know what we like even more ? Free things without responsibilities/reciprocity. So yes, as long as you’re offering, even if they know they’d never do same or quater of the same for you, they’ll take whatever you’ve got to offer and you can’t blame them later on because well, they never signed anything to begin with. Yes, it sounds cruel.
You would have set yourself up. That is why you need to protect your heart and your space. That responsibility falls on YOU !
The reason you need to look out for yourself is, most leeches don’t have a conscience. Some don’t even know they are being leeches so you can’t actually count on them to be sensitive for you. Look out for that person in your circle who AAAALWAYS needs a favour but suddenly has selective amnesia or an excuse when it’s your turn. They may not even know they are doing this. That is why YOU need to watch out for yourself.
Before you go gaga for them, wait and see who goes gaga for you. Absolutely !
Daddy thought me to protect people’s heart when they’re in love with me but I don’t feel the same about them. I am just realising that this can apply for other human relationships as well.
I’ll tell you what I mean but first of all, here is what protecting their heart means : don’t take advantage of them, don’t ridicule them (make them feel stupid), lead them on or hurt them just because you know how they feel about you. Now, applying that to friendships, family or even work/business relations.
If you know you’re taking so much more from that relationship/someone who loves/values/cherish you than you’re putting into it/ giving them, time to stop being a leech and step back out of SENSE and the fear of God.
Time for an honest self-assessment people ! Are you being a leech or a blessing ? You can’t be both 🤷🏾♀
To end this piece, let me share with you a testimony from a friend after she read my status updates.
Dear readers, be well and be safe.
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I would also love to hear from you. What has your experience been ?
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