I thank God for making me African. Why ? Because it seems that when you are from Africa, there is this inherent inner strenght you are automatically born with. You tend to just brush aside things that every normal human being might need to go to therapy for. I have never been to therapy and hopefully never will. Thank you Jesus 😄.
On to what I wanna tell you tonight.
This morning during my Bible reading time, as I read from 1 Samuel chapter 17 which relates the David and Goliath story, I learnt something new I did not know about David. He also was a stranger; a stranger to his own family.
What do I mean ? David was such a wonder and yet his family did not know him. They had no idea how much God had anointed him with power. They had no idea what exploits he had accomplished in his alone times in the wilderness. They had no idea who he truly was and how close he was to God so his brothers looked down on him when he offered to fight Goliath.
Many of us have been/are in David’s shoes. We are strangers to our own families and #DearStranger let me tell you something : you need not feel ashamed one bit that your own family barely knows you.
Sorry to disappoint those who thought I was going to argue in the opposit direction.
The other day, I read a meme on Facebook which went something like ” this is how suprised some people’s family members would look on their burial day as friends and church members sing their praises and say things about them their family had no idea of. Allow your own family to know you first ” .
Hmm…that word “family”. It can be deceptive. So deceptive.
I’ve also seen a few of the supposedly wise quotes flying around go like ” if you want to truly know who a person is, ask their family members ” .
I’d say : if you truly wanna find out who a person is and you think you must do it through their family, first take a walk in their shoes.
Let me tell you. I feel these statements are somehow meant to guilt trip people.
What are you talking about ? People have/are committing suicide or have attempted to, just at the thought of their families. There is no one size fits all. Such blanket statements are far from being true for everybody; I dare say even for the majority.
Unfortunately, questioning their immediate family isn’t always the best way of getting to know a person. It could actually even be the worse way of trying to know some people simply because not everyone has had the chance of having what you would call a normal family.
People are so bruised. Not by outsiders but by their own families, the very people supposed to nurse them. You’d be surprised how different reality can actually be from what is seems to be on the outside.
I for one cannot stop thanking God for where He has brought me from, what He has brought me through and the power of redemption, forgiveness, healing and restoration. I’ll tell my story one day and at the right time. Not to point fingers but so someone can be free and healed too.
There are so many Davids walking around and their families have no idea who they truly are.
When the very people who are supposed to be your support system have no clue who you truly are, question everything you stand for, tremple on your self estime and self worth so much so that God is the only support system you’ve got left, I don’t think they are the first people you want to open up to when you get home after a long day.
I just want to tell anyone reading this and who might have ever come across any of these memes that you don’t have to feel bad. You didn’t fail at opening up to your folks and building a bond witht them. They just weren’t ready for the amazing person you are.
We need to understand that just because someone is laying there in their coffin and their biological family doesn’t have a thing to say about them doesn’t mean they were a horrible person.
There is so much more below the surface that the world doesn’t get to see.
There are so many of your shoes they didn’t get to put on and of your thorns they did not get to walk on so while you are still breathing, walk on #DearStranger.
#DearStranger #StrangerToTheirFamilies #NotSynonymousOfHorrible
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