Dear readers I know I owe you all a big time apology and they will come later but right now I AM HERE FOR SOME RANTING so let’s get to it 😄😄. 🙋🙋🙋
You see ? It is true the Bible says that two are better than one but there is always a good thing in every season; even in singleness.
Living alone in a foreign land and being single has thought me a number of things and among them is : never expecting anything from anyone. Wait. I don’t mean I’d say no to some good pampering and that I never need anyone’s help. What I mean is, being single has thought me how to develop what I call “survival mechanisms or skills” 😅😆. Lemme explain.
Being single has thought me to roll up my sleeves and do on my own the sort of tasks or chores that one would consider “manly” or masculin.
Did you say spraying herbicide ? I will do it. Why ? Because I can.
Did you say weeding ? I will do as much as I can until I have to maybe call for help. Why ? Because I can.
Did you say carrying heavy gallons of water; 5 to 6 to be precise and twice or thrice a week, I have done it and would still do it.
Did you say moving which implies lifting heavy boxes and furniture ? Eerm… I have done it 3 times over.
Did you say killing roaches or wall geckos ? I will. Why ?? Just because I can.
Once any of these tasks/chores comes up as part of my day to day needs I will just get to doing them.
What does a man use in performing all these tasks ? Two arms…two hands…two legs and two feet ? Do I have those things as well ? Yes ?
So why must I wait on a man to come do them for me when there is no immediate “manly” help around ? And if I never got the manly help, will I forever wait for a man to appear and do these for me ?
The same goes for you young man. When you’re done eating in those plates, will you forever leave them dirty until a “womanly help” shows up to do the dirty dishes for you just because that’s a task that’s been said to be feminin ?
Will you never sweep your room until you get married or until that female friend of yours or your sister or mother comes around to do it ? What if you had none of these female figures in your life ??
If you went hungry, will you go on a hunger strike until a woman shows up to fix you a plate or until you find a food joint managed by a woman ? And if it was a man serving at the joint, you wouldn’t buy and eat the food ??
What will the women use to perform these supposedly “feminin” tasks ? Their two hands ? Do you have two hands ? Why must you wait on a woman forever then ?
Men and women alike, fathers and mother to be, it is high time we change the norms and challenge the clichés.
Mothers especially. Teach your sons right. Don’t raise spoilt brats who won’t lift a finger to help their wives tomorrow or will become totally helpless once their wives are absent while you pray and expect great husbands for your daughters. Where will those good husbands come from ? Will they fall from heaven ?
Oh no ma’am ! You think you can raise your boys to forever remain boys while expecting another mother to teach her sons how to become grown gentlemen and good husbands for your daughters ? 😂 Oh okay.
You think it’s not your duty to raise your boy with someone’s daughter and society at large in mind ? No problem. It’s a free world. Let’s all raise spoilt lazy bone brats then. Shall we ? 😆
If you think raising your sons never to do house chores is fine, well remember other mothers out there also think they are entitled to doing the same. The same way you are raising your sons to be entitled brats, someone is also raising theirs to be the same and they’ll grow up to become husbands to your daughters. It’s a beautiful exchange 😆😆😆. Isn’t it ?
You are doing your own children good and you are doing mine good when you teach them that we are all humans and house chores have no gender.
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